Hi UnHappy: (It will be temporary - we never stay down long):
I had EXACTLY the same thing happen to me last year. Ashley's tuition was due. She told her dad. He refused to pay. I mean, after all - he was building a deck ya know. GRRRR. I remember spitting fire.
So, what does your separation agreement say? That is what I have learned to refer to. I just respond to him with "Check your copy of our S.A. In it, you have to pay. If you refuse - I'll take you to court. I will win. You will pay my court costs. That is usually all it takes.
Ashley knew what her dad said - he said it to her. It has to really hurt a kid to know. I remember what should have been a wonderful day, checking out her campus the day we went to pay tuition. He spoiled it.
I often wonder the same thing. How some men are "family men" and some are not. It boggles the mine. I like what Wonder said. "they are revealed over time". Yep - that sounds right.
It never really goes away, does it? We are all strong women. We have all been through SO much crap. We have all made better lives for ourselves. But we still feel. We still remember. We still hurt. I know I do.
Take care of your son's education. It is most important. He will know where it came from. And if you have any recourse without a lawyer - use it. I just usually put it in writing to ex that I'll see him in court. It's not an idle threat - I will be there if he screws up. I will not tolerate his lack of support.
I'm thinking of you and sending you hugs. I think you need it today.
