Well friends this is it. My locks are changed and H can only get into the house between now and 12:00am At 12:01am he no longer can come into the house. The cops may be called. I don't know what is going to happen.
I moved the rest of his things out of the house. The bed, his clothes, the things in the bathroom. Everything but the couch and recliner.
He called and wanted to take a bath! I told him that I had moved his things out. He got really mad. Know why? Because I found the porn DVDs he had in his nightstand. He cheated on me and left me for OW and he thinks I give a flip about his porn DVDs?
My Dad is staying here with me. I am nervous. I have no clue what is going to happen.
I just need to get over this hurdle and things can get back on track for me.
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
You are going to be fine Sara. You get to a point and you can just see it. We don't have to like it and we may still feel sad but we can see that our spouses left the path and we have to go on. I'll catch you on the other side of the woods!
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Sara, I have been reading you for a couple months but not posting. I used to live in St. Louis area and taught in the city of St. Louis, on Goodfellow. It was a rough job...
Anyway I am thinking of you tonight, I know it has been leading up to this for quite a while. Just remember you are headed to the happiest place on earth (Disney!) soon, you will make it through tonight.
I'm SO sorry you have to face this but I really admire the strength you have. Just keep taking the precautions that you need to take. Your H isn't dealing with reality - that much is painfully clear. So you need to take extra good care of yourself. I'm glad your dad is with you.
Seriously? He wanted to take a bath? Seriously? And this is the last day he can move his things out? And he wanted to take a bath?
I have a very non-PC term in mind for him. Man...I am just dumbfounded by his complete ignorance of reality.
Well, I'm glad your dad is there with you. Try not to worry. The law will take care of the rest of it, and you can refocus on what comes next for you.
What are you going to do if he doesn't come get his stuff?
Again, wow. That dee dee dee sound that Carlos Mencia makes comes to mind....
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
Sara, sweetheart, I'm so glad you have your dad with you tonight. I'm so concerned for your husband's mental well-being. He is really out of his bloody mind. I will be so relieved when he has everything off your property.
Hang tight. You're in our thoughts.
(((((Sara)))))
M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence
Well it is 11:08pm and no word from H. He never did come over to take his bath. I know....he hasn't moved a thing and is spending money like it is going out of style BUT he wants to come to my house to take a bath. WTF!
Still unsure what is going to happen. He has to at least come and get his basic needs stuff eventually. If it is after midnight, I am going to call the police and say that my ex husband is trying to break into my house.
My lawyer won't talk to me about what to do if he doesn't take all of his stuff. I noticed that he took his 2 DVD players to a pawn shop and recently got them out of houck. I figure that he will have a certain amount of time to get it out and if he doesn't, I am having a big garage sale. He literally has over 1000 books about the Bible, sermons and philsophy. I dont' see him getting these. I will go through them and take the few that I want and sell the rest. Whatever doesn't sell I will give to Goodwill.
It just baffles me how ignorant he seems about this whole situation. Does he even have a clue how serious this is?
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
I don't know if this has been covered, but is it possible that your H is doing drugs? He is just so out of it, even more so than most of the WAS. C L U E L E S S But what is sad, is that he is clueless how much this will devastate him when it sinks in.
You are doing all the right things, Sara. You really are. You have given your M 100% and then some effort. Girl, you are amazing.
PS: Your signature says 8/2 for final D. Is it sooner?
Sara, Im so glad your dad is there with you, it makes a big difference to not be alone. This has been a long trip hasnt it? I hope that tonight goes smoothly. Take care of yourself girl.
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
