GFI, you are so sweet & adorable & caring, & gorgeous. I've said it before, & I'll say it again, your H is a total fool.
I'm really glad to see you thinking through so much, & sharing. Good job ! Ms. "I'll handle it alone". xoxoxoxoxoxo You don't have to, we're all here to offer support & encouragement.
Hugs
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.