I have a summer cold. Nothing worse than feeling blech when it is nice out. I think I got it from all the stress!
After our talk on Monday night all the kids went with H. He tried to talk to them about helping me out and attitudes(Whatever). H didn't expect them to let the floodgates open though. D9 told him she only half loved him now because what he is doing is wrong. She said she half hates him too. S15 talked about how all of these things they are telling him are because it is how they feel, not some words that Mommy fed them.(This is H's excuse for anything they say that he doesn't want to hear).
I am so glad that they tried to talk to H. Not for my marriage but for them. Keeping all of that anger, sadness and frustration inside is not a good thing and it might even help their Dad see the damage he has done to them.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
kat [/quote]Sorry to hear you have a cold. Yuck! Glad that your kids are talking to H; I do think that's good for them to express that. Mine haven't done that, just talk to me and the C, but at least that's something I guess.
lwb: I had to fib about my last sexual encounter with H has well. I felt sort of bad about that. The papers said something about being seperated for 6 months. Well obviously since H refused to leave the home, we never have been seperated. My lawyer said, "that means in the marital sense surely you haven't ML in the past 6 months." I just nodded, knowing the last time was in February.
Kat: I am glad you kids got to talk to your H. I think that is good for them and good for him to hear it. Although he might be too thick in the head to get it.
Hope that cold clears up.
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
I am so glad that they tried to talk to H. Not for my marriage but for them. Keeping all of that anger, sadness and frustration inside is not a good thing and it might even help their Dad see the damage he has done to the
Your kids feeling sad is just such a heartbreaker... and so glad they feel they can talk to you, too.
I sure hope Kat has been resting today and taking care of that cold. I sure hate getting sick at all, but especially in the summer!
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
As for my cold, my head feels heavy and I am coughing. I stayed up late this weekend and just didn't get enough sleep, slept with both fans on me and got a chill and I am going through a sad, stressful situation...gee, why did I get sick?
I'll take it easy tonight. Hot tea even sounds good.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
And damned attractive, too! 
