Maybe you can beat around the bush and just try and have friendly conversations with her. I think if you bring up the R talk to fast it might backfire on you. I don't know your wife though so I'm just trying to look out for you so you don't backslide.
Maybe if you are talking to her you can somehow shift the conversation to a really good time or memory of the past. Something really funny would probably be ideal. Watch how she reacts carefully.
Remember what I said a while ago about testing different things and monitoring them closely. Same goes for little chats and conversations too. If a chat is going the wrong way, then shift the conversation and make a mental note of what caused the negative course in the conversations. Same thing when the chat is going well. Do more of it and make notes of what is working.
The more happy talks you have the easier it will be for both of you to draw closer.
I'm just restarting that right now. My wife contacted me for money because it;s the 15th (go figure) so I basically told her I'd bring it over later and then I shifted the conversation to talking about my Ds trip. It was happy, light and a few funny texts back and forth. It sure beats angry, cynical spiteful demon bitch from hell spew that she usually flings at me.
This is what I intend on pursuing full time. Happy chat at all times and run fast as hell away from R talk. As far as the posting online. I'm still going to do that, but I'm going to now adjust it a bit to post some stuff about missing her etc. Just light stuff, maybe some song lyrics and a couple tunes that we both like. Know that I know she is watching me close I'll add in some more mystery to the mix too and hopefully she'll stay interested in what I'm doing and I see that as basically my foot in the door.
Hope that gives you some ideas.
- Scott
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