For the Guy with kids and a WW 6

[hopeful4her]

So far, what a day. Still at work.

Started out sad. Got over that. We had a customer appreciation day today at the office. My coworker and I cooked up hot dogs and passed out sodi's. Giving out gas cards for new accounts. Busy day. Hot out. Lot's going on. Later, HR comes by and lets my partner go! He is the guy that I was able to help get back with his wife. He was a WAS. Something from his last job came back to haunt him. He was a good guy and we had gotten close. He of course knew my sitch, and really tried to help me GAL. That was upsetting.

Then I miss a call from roomie's ex. The one that S14 is going to move in with. His dad. Roomie told S14 on Sunday that she wants to meet with his dad. Talk about what is going on. I have had to be the go between them for years. They ALWAYS end up fighting. We started out that way, but he finally figured out that I am a great guy. He left me a VM about him not wanting to meet roomie. If she wants to talk, then maybe over the phone. He knows they end up arguing. I'm going to have to call him back and let him know that it between him and her now. I am no longer in the middle.

I think he is going to eventually ask her for child support. That would be interesting.

Then at the end of the day, "B" calls me. My other friend "D" was texting me earlier. She wanted me to call her. Never got a chance to call her back, though. I'm gonna call her when I get out of work. Maybe. Talked to "B" for a while. She wanted to see if I wanted to meet her and our other friend for a quick drink. I can't make it tonight, but maybe some other time. We catch up a bit. I actually thought about her this past weekend. Not sure why. She asked how things were. I told her that wife SAYS she is moving, but is still home.

I told her like I told my coworker. The one that has been trying to get me to go out.

I am enjoying being a full time parent, right now. If and when she moves out, I will have plenty of time to go out and do things for myself. Right now, my focus is family time. Even including my wife. I want them to remember how the family time was important to me.

I just remembered something. Last night at home. Still hadn't heard from wife about what time she would be home. I asked S14 if he had heard from her. He said yes, that she had a busy day and was going to be home late. I kind of got on him about relaying the info to me.

I said, "Were you going to tell me?"
"What?"
"Were you going to let me know that you had talked to her? Letting me know what time to maybe expect her?"
"I dunno. Why? She's your wife."

Ooh, I got pissed. I walked into his room. I usually would have gone off on him.

"Don't talk to me like that again. Ok, son? That was very rude. And by the way, no, your mother does not think that she is my wife, Ok."
"Ok. Sorry."


I am not as big a puss as I might come across as here. I am the strong silent type. I am able to let a lot of stuff roll of my back, but I don't get pushed around. Except for my sitch. I learn a little more about myself everyday.

I told my boss today, as she was telling me about coworker. I know my work has not been great. My sales are down. I am gonna step up. I will get my personal life under control. She starts to talk to me about letting my life control my actions. My work. We talk about addictions and control. We both like to be in control and would never let ourselves be addicted to something.

But I told her that I DO have ONE addiction.

I then told her, "From now on, I am no longer going to let my situation control me, I will control my situation." I told her that everyone has their Kryptonite, and I have mine. She says, "And her name is....."

I told her, "Not anymore."