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Brian, it is about trying different things right?

You made contact, see how she reacts in a day or so.

Why it is that we insist on instant gratification when we reach out is unknown to me since we never ever get it. It sets us up to have bad feelings one way or the other.

You stuck the proverbial olive branch out there, see what happens. Also, if this doesn't work, try something else instead. It is about seeing what works and what doesn't.

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Honestly as I said above I feel used...



I like, hurt, lonely, confused, even I miss her....used.....wtf?????

It was not about you being used, it was about her testing your reaction only you want it to be your reaction on your timeline and not hers. Who knows how long she has to watch you, who knows what she is waiting for, be patient, you lose that and you end up feeling "used".......

Where has your connection been with her Brian, what have you two done together where you feel like it has been successful? If you think through this and read back a bit in your sitch, I think you will see what has worked for you and what has not. You are allowing yoru own fears, frustration, and lack of patience to get in your head. Now stop it.......


Ian

Last edited by Racefan; 07/15/08 11:19 PM.

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