i think i am in the same boat as you- he was the taker, i did all the work, i have a hard time asking for what i needed and i know i cant do that right now... wow SC!!! how did you teach him? you backed off right? you even said you arent doing all you can for the R bc he needs to fill the void- thats what i am trying to do here
Go back & read my first few posts. Basically, an OM helped me kick his *ss, & we had a shift in power.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
