But you know, if what W did wasn't about me, not about something I can acknowledge and something I can improve in myself -- then I'm not really that interested in what it was about.
Well that's good. In fact it's healthy. You're putting the focus where it should be.
Thing is g, if our spouses were going to do this, then there is not a thing we could have done to change it regardless of what we changed. In fact one of my best friends is a shrink and she told me along with my therapist, that it wouldn't have mattered who ex was with, this would have happened. We are talking about weak people, not healthy or even morally grounded people.
The good part is that now we have the gift of taking a good long look at who we are and how we measure up to the kind of people that we want to be. So I can appreciate your view on this.
