Oldtimers: Return or not..what finally happened?

[peacetoday]

Thank You Walking back, Sh, JMC and Sgctxok for responding
this is really helpful for me to see it all on paper

WB
many people do sort out their lives without leaving their M and finding a new R usually within moments or prior to leave
I see my H as sick
He is totally not the same
the only connection I see to MLC is that all our spouses are simialr in many ways
2 people on my block have shared with me about MLC spouse and one left one considering leaving
it is everywhere
I am grateful though, in many ways it has been a gift
to get to this place..I dont think I could have in mt M
peace