I agree with you, I guess I just needed to hear it. Thank You.
I think my H is at a stage right now that many things I would like to say or do, would unfortunately send him running away again.
I guess that sometimes when I do things alone and not nag/question H about our future, it is for the best. He is just not ready to think about those things yet. We need to just date a while longer and I need to be patient and greatful for this time togehter.
I wish I could turn off my emotions though. It is hard to control them. I still cry a lot when my H isnt around thinking of what has happened to our R. I also have a lot of fears that he will do something of the sort again in our future.
I am playing a little hard to get, and it seems to be working. I will keep at it. This is mostly becuase I am doing things we used to do together all alone now (holidays, parties, hanging with our old friends, camping trips), yep- he doesnt want anything to do wiht our old life. But he doesnt mind me popping in on his new life with his band and friends, so again I will keep at it even though it is awkward.
I just need patience, and I love to be reassured by all of you guys here on the boards that I am doing what seems to be working in my case. I have a hard time telling if it is or isnt sometimes.
Well, gotta go - H is coming over for dinner tonight & some movies. I am so happy to be spending time with him. TIPPER
