I dwell on "How could I screw this M up again" instead of limiting my frustration to "I'm disappointed he didn't notice my haircut". Was there an aha moment for you? Peace.
My aha moment was when I loved my haircut whether he noticed it or not.
Oh, & goldey, it takes two to screw up a marriage, he had to have helped you.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
