Thanks again for taking the time with this Puppy, it's very helpful to get your viewpoint.
You're right, there were no real consequences, even though at the time I thought he had ended it (as he made it appear) with OW when we spent Thankx together.
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So what, instead of not being with you on Thanksgiving, he goes the say AFTER, and spends it with his girlfriend, and that's somehow different? Unless I missed it, there were NO consequences for that incredibly disrespectful decision on his part??
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How many times did you backslide and ML with him after you both knew he was having an affair?
Five x's, including 2 days after he left. None after the phone call to OW 3 months ago, however.
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Your husband sounds VERY controlling!
You bet, infact, he just now left a VM wanting to know if I received the e-mail (showing his ticket, with 1 pax listed,like a flight attendant doesn't know that's only his ticket).
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Help me understand your financial situation; how dependent are you on him?
I'm not dependent at all & while I couldn't afford to live in this house, I see that the "Offer" gives me his 1/2 w/the small mortgage coming out of CS ($4,000 mo., according to him). The property taxes aren't mentioned though & would take another $2,000 mo. from CS. No alimony per agreement.
We have a pre-nup (signed our wedding day) that a very good attorney went through & told me my options on. He counts on knowing me & how much I dislike tangling, always wanting to be more than "fair."
I'm the primary caregiver & don't work outside the home, so that won't be an issue. He does tell me he'll get a place close & start keeping him overnight frequently. I document everything, including that he's had him 1 night a wk overnight & 2 nights out for dinner.
Bottom line is I've allowed him to do some pretty heavy cake eating.
My guess, since he's now trying to get me to respond, is that he'll continue until he gets me, maybe coming over when I don't.
I'm more than ready to follow up now, what's the best way to do that IYO.
Best,
Sunny
You hit the nail on the head, he doesn't believe I'll follow thru.
