Well the holiday weekend is winding down and it was not the best one i've had.
To start with, I was on call with work this weekend and got called out on friday. This sucked because of the distance, 500 mi. round trip, and when I got there it wasn't a problem and there wasn't anything I could do at that moment anyway.
I get home and try and reach my youngest son, it's my weekend, and no such luck. Shouldn't be surprised as this is typical of his mother with no communication or consideration.
So the night of the 4th was spent alone as friends were out of town or busy, and the sometimes GF is suspiciously silent and unreachable, havn't heard anything since thursday.
What I did do yesterday is start to list some things on Craigs list for sale and even had a few calls. Maybe a sale today... i'll cross my fingers and pray. Since the losses started a few years back with my house, marriage, business, and theft of 150K worth of tools, parts and cars I need to liquidate remaining items of old life and start fresh. Oh boy do I have a lot of cr@p.
Sure easier to do these things when there is someone to share it with. I miss that...
cire
Me 48 X's vary S 27 S 18 Back with high school sweety after 30 years..
....which is why we go back to being ourself...enjoy our quiet time....and learn to relax again. There still is no excuse for our W's 'using the kids' to hurt us tho'.
Playing phone tag. FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
Almost a year since X hit me with a RO and I do think of her often. I wonder how she's doing and I can't help but have a curiosity if she thinks of me.
On another note, the GF and I have hit a bad place. As i've posted a bit, things between us have been weary of late. She has treated me badly and been more moody than i've seen anyone!
Last wed. we went to dinner and had a wonderful time just to have it end with her crying and I even heard the word suicide. Now this scares me and I was calm and quiet but that just seemed to aggravate. What seemed to set it off is her depression being out of work and all the circumstances that come with that.
Forward to thur. afternoon and fri. morning, i'm working out of town and we text quite a bit. Everything is going much better and back on track it seems. That was short lived of course.
Her depression starts back up and texting turns to "find a normal girl" as she thinks she's damaged goods. Of course I want to fix her feelings (I know BAD) and I find myself back at square one trying to convince her how she should feel, and we can get through this together.
2X4 to myself!!!
Here comes sat. afternoon as i'm coming home and the texting continues but starts to get bad and weird. I am still trying to push my view and of course its not being received at all. She even starts to refer to herself as a 12 yr. old girl and i'm to old. YIKES! Nasty really starts in the more I try and calm her down and there are three more references by her as to being a 12 yr. old.
It ends with me asking her if she plans on paying me back the money I loaned her and her responding with something to the effect, F NO I slept with you and never got my moneys worth and you owe me!
CRINGE, that hurts!
I have no more contact but I get a text picture mail from her at 12:30am this morning. When I look at the pic on my way to work it's a pic of some dudes d!#* with the caption "suck on this one" , slam again.
Painful to say the least.
A few friends tell me to not respond at all and I have to agree, WTH could I possibly say. No contact since that pic but i'm afraid of what she might do or say next.
cire (ugh)
Me 48 X's vary S 27 S 18 Back with high school sweety after 30 years..
And next time you lend money, draw up a simple paper that outlines the repayment. x lost over 6k that way to someone he thought was a friend, who then just disappeared.
You deserve SO much better. If you try to reach out to her after that, she'll think you are a wimp.
Agreed....look back and ask yourself why you chose her. Are your radar beams locking onto a particular woman? Be careful. Supporting and following you. FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
Donna, Agreed about the run from her. I feel like i'm abandoning in some weird way though. As far as the money goes I could take her to court because she did acknowledge it but i've walked away from much more in the past. She can live with it... and isn't it in scripture that it's Gods anyways. If he wants me to get it back it'll come.
About the wimp thing, I won't reach out that's a given but what if she tries to talk to me is it wimpish if I listen?
Trip and FIB thanx!! As far as radar goes I think it's braille!
cire
Me 48 X's vary S 27 S 18 Back with high school sweety after 30 years..
A lawyer arrived home late, after a very tough day trying to get a > stay of execution for a client who was due to be hanged for murder at > midnight. His last minute plea for clemency to the governor had > failed and he was feeling worn out and depressed. > > As soon as he walked through the door at home, his wife started on him > about, 'What time of night to be getting home is this? Where have you > been? Dinner is cold and I'm not reheating it'. And on and on and > on. > > Too shattered to play his usual role in this familiar ritual, he went > and poured himself a shot of whiskey and headed off for a long hot > soak in the bathtub, pursued by the predictable sarcastic remarks as > he dragged himself up the stairs. > > While he was in the bath, the phone rang. The wife answered and was > told that her husband's client, James Wright, had been granted a stay > of execution after all. Wright would not be hanged tonight. > > Finally realizing what a terrible day he must have had, she decided to > go upstairs and give him the good news. As she opened the bathroom > door, she was greeted by the sight of her husband, bent over naked, > drying his legs and feet. > > 'They're not hanging Wright tonight,' she said. > > To which he whirled around and screamed, 'FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, WOMAN, > DON'T YOU EVER STOP?'
Me 48 X's vary S 27 S 18 Back with high school sweety after 30 years..
This is downright scary. I can't put it any nicer, she sounds like a coukoo. Just backaway. Guaranteed when she doesn't get the attention from you she'll move on to some other poor, unsuspecting victim.
lodo