Hi, I'm new to the forum.

[The Wifey]

I had a great time camping! I got there, set up the tent and started a fire. Cooked hot dogs over the fire for dinner. Drank a lot of wine, read my book. Spent some time praying for strength and guidance. Took a lot of time to breathe and look at the beauty around me.

Saturday I grabbed an early shower then made camper's toast and eggs for breakfast. Nothing like cooking over an open campfire.

Hung around and read and relaxed through the heat of the day, then rented a paddleboat and went out in the middle of the lake. I had on the bikini and brought a book along.

Stopped for ice, wood and an icecream on the way back to the site. Made another campfire and used my sandwich maker that goes in the coals of the fire to make a pizza sandwich for dinner.

Only downside was there was a problem with the fishing reel so I couldn't fish. I didn't realize until I arrived and I couldn't figure it out.

I came home rested and calm. Told my husband about all the beauty around me and how it made me want to cry it affected me so much. He hadn't thought it was smart to camp alone. I told him I was surrounded by other people and safe, nobody bothered me. H then said he was happy for me.

I made the mistake, unfortunately, to tell him how much I missed him and how I couldn't wait to get home. He was only too happy to welcome me home but I started coming on a little strong and he was uncomfortable.

I see what didn't work. Tonight I will back off and just be there. All in all a great weekend that left me wanting to do more camping. It gave him space and time and me a much needed mental health break.

[The Wifey]

Today from my husband's email.

From the a friend asking how he is and if things are getting better and asking him to have lunch- yes a female friend.

First time I felt like telling him to FO.

Good and not really...invention from extended family...PITA...I ride a lot to cope...To the point of not wanting to talk about it anymore....Sick and tired of the drama...and all the blah, blah, blah to go along with it.....however do appreciate you checking in with me.

Not sure about Friday, maybe. I’ll have to let you know about next week..

[pisces9]

thats great you went!! happy you enjoyed nature
so things were positive when you got back and how did they become negative? did he reply to the email? why are you looking?

[LosingSunshine]

(((Wifey)))

Glad to hear you had a good time camping. I am actually considering taking my two youngins out with my and some friends here in a few weeks. The W thinks I am crazy but who cares. It's about me and my kids having a great time. I am also taking them alone to the beach in 4 weeks but my extended family will be there..it'll be fun in any case.

Hope you are having a great day!

Chris

[The Wifey]

There's more.. Not sure if the extended family is the blah blah blah or if I am. I think I want him to leave. Or I will.


Good and not really...invention from extended family Hers or yours?...Both..PITA...I ride a lot to cope... How many miles? Over 700 miles in the last two weekends...

WOW 700 miles that a lot…


I hear Vermont is lovely driving country… Yeah, I’m considering taking an extended weekend there...

Don’t forget to write –


To the point of not wanting to talk about it anymore....Sick and tired of the drama...and all the blah, blah, blah to go along with it.....however do appreciate you checking in with me. Can understand I hate the drama crap too, my family members are experts… Bingo that and every feels sorry for her...they don’t know the truth but in no way shape or form do I feel obligated to explain my actions because frankly it none of their business. They think I experienced a mid crisis or what ever...She knows the deal and that is all that maters.

More like a mid-life relation – so is she trying to stop the separation…


So I am assuming your going through an official “separation” or are you considering a reconciliation? Separation
Just be careful, separate your cash….


How did the class go? Did your find it worth while? Did you get out of it what you wanted?
My class is a week from this Monday
(July 31st – Aug 1st I was able to get a former RIT student to work with me – she did my site…)
But went for my UofR training and I am a little more relaxed… opps now I remember....sorry

Not sure about Friday, maybe. I’ll have to let you know about next week.. OK


Other than that things are O.K. Yup... How is your home situation fairing? It is what it is… (I think he has a thing on the side) – very secretive lately, his palm, and bank accounts all have new passwords… the sad thing is I don’t care… How was the party? FUN… I had out of state relatives visiting otherwise I would of stopped by to visit and have beer or two. Did they come for the Bill intervention…


Hey Bill

How R U? Are things better/ getting easier ???

Wanna do lunch Friday or next week?

[The Wifey]

I had to edit this because I accidentally included "her" email address. I wouldn't want anyone to flame her.

[sgctxok]

I had a great time camping! I got there, set up the tent and started a fire. Cooked hot dogs over the fire for dinner. Drank a lot of wine, read my book. Spent some time praying for strength and guidance. Took a lot of time to breathe and look at the beauty around me.

Saturday I grabbed an early shower then made camper's toast and eggs for breakfast. Nothing like cooking over an open campfire.

Hung around and read and relaxed through the heat of the day, then rented a paddleboat and went out in the middle of the lake. I had on the bikini and brought a book along.

Stopped for ice, wood and an icecream on the way back to the site. Made another campfire and used my sandwich maker that goes in the coals of the fire to make a pizza sandwich for dinner.

Only downside was there was a problem with the fishing reel so I couldn't fish. I didn't realize until I arrived and I couldn't figure it out.

Girl, you are every man's dream. Just do the backing off thing....seriously. And invite us when you go camping because that's is tooo cool....and in a bikini.....

mercy

do you KNOW how many men on this site are drooling? puhleez.

girl please.

You just do more of the above.




And don't get insecure when you get around him. (less of this)

I came home rested and calm. Told my husband about all the beauty around me and how it made me want to cry it affected me so much. He hadn't thought it was smart to camp alone. I told him I was surrounded by other people and safe, nobody bothered me. H then said he was happy for me.

I made the mistake, unfortunately, to tell him how much I missed him and how I couldn't wait to get home. He was only too happy to welcome me home but I started coming on a little strong and he was uncomfortable.

and...oh...you ALREADY KNOW:

I see what didn't work. Tonight I will back off and just be there. All in all a great weekend that left me wanting to do more camping. It gave him space and time and me a much needed mental health break.

I want to be YOU. Need to buy some camping stuff. I may have to eat a hot dog to satisfy myself. I got the wine.

[The Wifey]

Every time I feel like I am making progress on DB I backslide. Right now I just want to run as far away from the pain. He has no idea how I feel and really doesn't seem to care to know.

I am afraid he may be having an EA affair with Ginny. This is his friend that has confided in him all of her marital problems. I don't think its physical because she is a "big girl" in his words. I wonder how she'd feel about him to know that?

[Bliss]

Wifey...

I've read this thread from the beginning. Gosh my heart is right there with you, rooting you on girl. You are one special person, and I know he will see that...hopefully soon, too!

I appreciate your honesty and your sweet, sweet spirit. You love this man, and I find that so refreshing. You go girl! (just go slowly?? hehe)

I wish I could take part of what you have and put it inside of me...what is that I see in you? Maybe it's just a realness.. I think that's it exactly (!) being real as well as humble, no anger, just sweet, sweet love.

Ahhh...to have that feeling inside of me once again....

I honestly think your H is crazy for doing this to you...what is he thinking? Somebody hold me back, ack!

Hang in there...I think you are marvelous!

{{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs to you KJ}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Bliss

[Virtually_Handsome]

(((((((Kelly Jo))))))

Don't do anything fast right now, I think. You'll have plenty of time. It feels like there is a lot going on (emotionally), maybe let it settle out before you decide anything.