The Story of Puppy (Chocolateeyes)

[SunnySeason]

Hi Puppy,

Could you please pay me a visit & give me your take on how to proceed.
I thinking I'm at a turning point & could use a little help on boundary enforcement.

Thanks,

Sunny
Another Brand New Day II (separated forum)

[karen43]

Women almost always have a "place to fall."
Puppy

Thats just so sad to me...

But from my time spent here, it seems like men always seem to have a "place to fall" also (like my H for example). I think most of them are too cowardly to leave without that. Sorry for my cynicism...Karen

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Women almost always have a "place to fall."
Puppy

Thats just so sad to me...

But from my time spent here, it seems like men always seem to have a "place to fall" also (like my H for example). I think most of them are too cowardly to leave without that. Sorry for my cynicism...Karen

I should clarify.

Men will leave a marriage for the sexual addiction alone, or even the high likelihood that they're about to get tons of validation and hot monkey sex.

A women will almost always have the next relationship FULLY LINED UP when she even begins to tell her husband "ILYBINILWN".

So when a man says "there is no one else," I would translate that as either "there really IS no one else," or "There is someone else and she doesn't even know I exist much yet, but I really think I can get in her pants if I were single, and I've been fantasizing more and more lately about being single."

When a woman says "there is no one else," as she's telling her husband that she wants out of her marriage (or at least wants "space"), I would translate that as "There is someone else, and I want space in which to conduct my affair without you bothering us."

At least, that's been my experience. I was also told that it was supported by research, but I couldn't cite it here.

Puppy

[lodo]

Hey pup,

I've moved over to Surviving since I'm now in the holding pattern until D is final and not much else is going on.

Just wanted to say thanks for all the support and advice while I was trying to deal with W's A and its aftermath. Wish I knew then what I know now, but hindsight is 20/20, right?

Stop by sometime,

lodo

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Will do, lodo -- and "you're welcome."

And yeah, the hindsight is ALWAYS clearer than when you're in the middle of this chit.

Puppy/Choc.

[JAK58]

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So when a man says "there is no one else," I would translate that as either "there really IS no one else," or "There is someone else and she doesn't even know I exist much yet, but I really think I can get in her pants if I were single, and I've been fantasizing more and more lately about being single.[quote]

This has hit the nail on the head in my case and others Iv'e seen with people I know. I think you are dead on in the woman's case also.

JAK

[Doing_My_Best]

Just wanted to drop by and give Puppy some props. Can't tell you all how much he helped me... I am a better man for knowing him

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Thanks, DMB -- and yeah, you have grown a TON in the past six months. The alpha dog is off the porch and runnin' with the big dogs!!!

Puppy/Choc.

[kat727]

I just wanted to let you know that I think you are starting to rub off on me. Taken long enough, huh? I'm still here, still putting up a good front but I wanted to tell you thanks.

kat

[Puppy Dog Tails]

In what ways am I rubbing off on you? Is that a GOOD thing?