Oldtimers: Return or not..what finally happened?

[JMC]

11/06 - bomb drop
1/11/07 - stbxW comes home at 3:30 am, admits to OM, but states there was no sex and she would never see him again, but our M was over.
2/07 - Retrouvaille weekend after which the ILYBNILWY speech and move out the next weekend.
6/07 - sell house and move in with friend.

We were intimate on a weekly basis from bomb drop until sale of house. She always denied OM. Snooped like a CIA agent and uncovered all kinds of stuff I never thought possible. One of her friends was asking me what was going on so I told her what I found out (I know - mistake).
9/07 - wife finds out I snooped. We meet for dinner - she says our M is over - we end up kissing and heavy petting.

11/07 - meet to have cell phone taken off her account. Have coffee - I throw out last olive branch. She says she misses my friendship, but not the husband/wife routine.

Later that month I find out from D25 that W has introduced her to the 'guy she would never see again'. I fill out paperwork to divorce w/out an attny.

1/11/08 - she gets back to me and states she would rather have an attorney do the D. I told her to get it done.

3/8/08 - calls to say she is meeting with attny.

D should be final any day. She lives with 'the guy she would never see again'. He had a serious gf and was doing my W on the side. So, not only was she cheating on me, but also the OW. Not sure if she still emails the married guy. She is unemployed and no longer has the company car. My understanding is that she drives one of his cars.

Sorry for the long reply, but to answer your question I would say there was certainly confusion on her part, but I have not heard any regret or apologies.

I tried dating a good friend (I know - mistake). She was (is) great, but we are in different places. She has been divorced for seven years.

As for standing, I, like so many others, wanted a reconciliation, but now realize that will most likely not happen. I still miss her and need to move on with my life - get my finances in order and hopefully get my own place within a year.