Mulesqb - Can the sun shine on a donkey's a$$?

[mulesqb]

Bill - Yes - she goes every Tuesday. I don't think she'll go when i suggest it - but I think it's time to try something a little more dramatic like this. Things aren't changing at all. She asked me to be patient the other night - that she has only been to her counselor twice. I know for a fact that she has been to her 4x. She just doesn't remember things very well.

Bill - everything else in your post sums up my sitch so perfectly that I feel you have a camera looking in.

What do you mean by cycling?? I have now shared everything. The paragraph about the 180 degree changes in behavior has me crying at my desk. That is my W - I couldn't describe it any better.

The part about the sense of loss - it REALLY feels like she has died.

I think at some point tonight she will mention her session today - I will try your questions as suggested. I agree - I don't think counseling is helping her at all right now. If it was I would leave it alone and not pursue a psychiatrist.

I feel the same way about the separation - but even though she is so sad about us - she won't leave again. And yes - I can't more than handle the full load - if i don't have to deal with the ups and downs. I actually have really enjoyed the kids when she is not around - no pressure and no guilt.