I agree on the desperation. Her little plan has stalled many times and appears to be doing so again. This time with more possible ramifications.
Funny, she wondered why I could not be generous and think of her and the K's first and let them stay in the house. That was all part of her "plan" - her life stays as is and I go elsewhere. Sorry, but this Lost has the "balls to stand up to his wife" (you may recall she once said I was lacking there) - something the Lost of a year ago may not have done...
That's their thinking.....and your job is to put as many road blocks in that "plan" as possible until their heads clear. During the affair they dream up this plan that they will get everything they want, new H, the kids they have, all the money they would ever need and live happily ever after with you left laying next to the road in their wake. And they can't believe you're not ok with this since "don't you want me to be happy"?
Stand your ground. You're fighting the good fight and hopefully at some point in the future she'll thank you for it. If she doesn't and your marriage ends, at least you'll know YOU stood up for what is right.
Hope4us
Me - 49, W 49 S22 & S18 Dday 9/4/07 W claims NC 4/7/08 8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.
