I stopped by your thread, as you asked, and read this most recent one fully. You said you needed some help setting boundaries, and I'm trying to clearly understand what the issues are.
1. Has your husband admitted to an EA? A PA? Denied either?
2. What is this "offer" he keeps hanging over your head?
3. What proof do you have that he is having an affair with this woman? Does he know what your sources of intel are?
4. What boundaries have you previously stated to him? Which have been kept, which have been violated, and what were the consequences for him violating them?
I'm sorry for your pain. I was in the middle of all of this at this very time last summer, and it's horrible.
