All settled in 250 miles apart

[JWS]

unfortunately today my name is Mr Backslide. I am stuck and need advice. several weeks ago (6 or7) i was given advice by friends here and in my life to not pay for things like her cell phone bill. I walk a line between supporting school and being walked on. I did not take this advice and choose to pay for it without looking who she is calling. well there's the backslide.

I was paying bills and noticed a new number, a lot. well turns out this new number is from an area code in her new city. that was a first so it arouse my curiosity. turns out this number is the one she texed all day on my BD, all week she was here and the night she threw me out after helping her move all day. she also called it several times that night. I even had the idea then she is acting like she needs to get out to go meet someone. well after calling the number (horrible i know) i get the guys name. turns out she told me a few stories about this guy but said he lived near the great lakes.

I am not at all accusing her of an EA or PA, and she has hardly texted or called since then, but I am sick to death of being lied too.

Now the hard part. I don't want to pay any more for her adventures. am i making this choice out of anger or because its right?? does that look like i am less supportive? is this going to be a step back from the friends approach. I have no intentions of talking about this guy with her, in fact i don't even care. I am so disgusted my her and her years of doing this to me, her guy friends can have her. I want the her i know she is cable of being and not this one anyways.

I need help getting my brain correct around this and calmly deciding a course of action, that does not alienate her from the progress we have made, but does take the welcome matt off my back, I am tired of being walked on. and yet again more proof for not looking because it only causes problems.

I am supporting her from the heart and becasue I know its right, and i don't want much in return. it just seems like she keeps taking, even though we have made progress. its going to be a long time before she is a person that I can truly love and trust again, so how do i get there without hating her or spending my time thinking of her. anyone out there willing to be a repacement spouce until ours gets there act together. JK but i do wonder what would happen if i met someone who treats me the way I should be. probaly just the crappy day speaking.