WAW is full steam ahead

[LosingSunshine]

Thanks (((SC))).

So far so good today. W was pleasant this morning and I will be out GAL tonight. Actually thinking about getting my family's coat of arms tattooed on me. I already have one and have been wanting to do this for years just not sure wear to put it...especially given that in my career (corporate finance) things like that are somewhat looked down upon. But, we'll see. W said a few months ago why don't I just get the printout and get a framed like my parents but I think the tattoo is the way to go...my rebellious side peaking through.

Chris

[LosingSunshine]

Neil,

My C is actually a pretty cool guy and I was fortunate that my church recommended him as he is pretty much the only pro-marriage C in town. I can only imagine where I would be if I hadn't found him and met with him the Saturday following the bombing raid.

I think my W is still in somewhat of a shock that me, of all people, is actually in counseling. It is just something that I have never believed in before. I chalk that up as another 180. She still has no idea when I meet with him and last week asked if I have been meeting with him in the evenings when I am out. I said no and that I was just out and about in the evenings doing things and reading etc...Her curiousity comes and goes. Not sure if you had the same experience with your W.

So, 2 calls to my office and 1 to my cell in the last 15 minutes. I wonder what's up? Must not be that important as she left no message.

I just wish that there was a little more consistency either way with these little things so that I could gain a sense for where she is at. Oh well. Patience.

Chris

[mrz99]

I have a heart tatoo on my upper arm with the names of my wife and the 3 kids name. I guess my problem is a tatoo removal (or fix) instead of a new one.

[LosingSunshine]

I would try the fix before the laser. Would probably cost less too.

I got my first tat right after me and my first fiance' (the girl I dated all through college) broke up. Maybe it's a tradition now for me?

My first was a celtic knot that is just above my right ankle. My family coat of arms has been something I have always wanted but I have no idea where to put it. An old friend of mine put his on the inner-side of his left arm and it looks real cool but I can't put it there and I am not "tone" enough to put it on my upper-arm. I guess maybe above my left ankle/calf area. We'll see. Big decision not to be made on emotion as it'll be on my for awhile, eh?

[Scott123]

Also, my C said yesterday that the constant bringing up of her need for independence/separateness is a sign that she is still confused/struggling with the decision. That's good for me in some ways, I guess but it just makes the sitch all that more difficult to manage at the same time.

Hmmm, my W has also constantly brought that up. Saying she is
too independent, used to doing things on her own, needs to be
happy and wants to be alone, no relationships etc. yet is in
a new relationship so go figure. She is so unlike her true
self right now.

That makes sense though what your C said.

Sometimes I just want to scream "SNAP OUT OF IT ALREADY" but what good will that do.

Believe me I know exactly what you mean.

At least you actually communicate with your wife though, which
is good. Mine will hardly talk to me at all, plus I am dark
to her, which I am starting to think is a big mistake.

- Scott

[KenF]

Hi,
just wanted to give some support, no advice right now that you havent heard many many times.

"Snap out of it" - I feel that lately, as in "please snap out of inventorying my mistakes and lets start working on healing".

as far as Springsteen, check out The Hold Steady, very similiar and great music.

I also ran out and got a tattoo as soon as the W dropped the bomb. I got my daughters name on the inside of my left bicep - close to my heart and even in short sleeves I can keep it easily hidden and yet very easy for me to see.

[KenF]

LS, thanks for checking up on my sitch.

can you give the name of that $3.99 book? or is that the name? "The $3.99 Book"

Reading has always been my favorite past time. Ever since early childhood. My mother would take me to the library and i'd take out 5 at a time and then back for more. We didnt have a TV in the house as i was growing up, (my father thought it better that we do chores than watch TV) so I read. I was around 11 when Roots came on TV so while the other kids were talking about it I read the book.

getting tattoos at the end of a relationship is very common. I should have realize this when my W was talking about getting one. She got hers a few weeks before dropping the bomb. stupid me.

[LosingSunshine]

I'll have to post the name later on tonight when I get home. It was written by a pair of NYC "life coaches" that started realizing that many of their wealthy clients just weren't happy. They had everything "pleasurable" but were miserable. They started looking at it and identified about 8 traps. Easy read and kind of interesting.

I personally have never been a big reader, outside of books/mags dealing with my career and my politics, but boy has that changed over the past few weeks. Lot's of interesting things to read to learn and expand the mind. Woo Hoo!

Chris

[LosingSunshine]

So far so good this Tuesday. W hasn't attempted to call me back which is nice. Going to leave work soon to pick up the kids and then drop them off at home since it is "her night" with the kids. Maybe she'll shed some light on why she called. Maybe not.

So I swung by a tattoo parlor near my office real quick a little earlier and it should be a little less than I thought to get it done and probably not longer than an hour or so if it's just the outline of the coat of arms. It's real tempting to do this. Emotions are saying go for it. I've wanted another one for so long. I have the money. I guess I am looking for a reason to not do it and I can't find one. So....I gotta pick a day and I just have too much free time tonight :-)

I'll check back in a little later. You all have a great afternoon/early evening.

Chris

[LosingSunshine]

No turning back now. I am sitting at the tattoo parlor and will be getting inked here pretty soon.

I decided to get the family cost of arms on my left leg above the ankle, probably ? Quarter up brywren the ankle and the knee. Still need to decide whether to get color or just black outline.

My W will flip as she has been against me getting another one for quite some time but this is something I want and have wanted....

Ha! This is great with no regrets. It takes me back to wo I was 15 years ago and I love it.