You sound like you are handling this pretty well now. Lets both hope that the two of us dont get hammered to badly financially. It is just not right and seems like a punishment if our W's get a huge financial gain from us.
I think one must look at the long term future in regards to what the kids think of what happened. It would be wrong to tell them that the blame is on your W as they need to love and respect both parents. However, you can set a good example for them in your next relationship and hopefully they will learn that it takes work to keep the love alive in a marriage. I dont want my kids to ever have to go through a divorce themselves and hopefully this tragedy may influence their future married lives.
