Mulesqb - Can the sun shine on a donkey's a$$?

[mulesqb]

PDT/mules..this is a difficult area. My W had a breakdown in November and at 930PM at night, I had her at a psychiatrist's office. Later, i was accused of 'picking the shrink' and 'setting her up'. This may backfire.

Be supportive and CAREFUL about this. She may feel attacked. If there is a moment or opening that is 'right', you may suggest that she may benefit from help. HOWEVER, the key to healing is recognizing you need help and SEEKING IT. You can lead a horse to water, etc.

After two years, my W is now saying that she doesn't want a D and is seeing a psychologist now REGULARLY that, in her words, 'specializes in this'.

Think, think, think first.

FIB - I agree totally. I think the right opportunity has to present itself. After being in the is cycle now for 6 months - there is no doubt in my mind that it will again - and probably sooner than later.

Unfortunately the perfect time was two weeks ago when she agreed to trial separate only to show up at home and refuse to go. She broke down that night in my arms - I chickened out on the talk. As Puppy has mentioned - I took the easy way out. I can't do that anymore - it's not working. I have to see what it's like not to and deal with her afterwards. I may blow it big time - but this current sitch isn't going anywhere.

I have ths place to take her already - that hospital I mentioned a couple of weeks ago. But I am not going to suggest that right away. i am going to make the suggestion of seeing the psychiatrist and then mention that I will look into right away and then come back with it as the fastest way to get evaluated - then they recommend a doctor to see. She knows she needs help - she thinks she is getting it through counseling - but quite frankly if she can't remember conversations we had last week how is she benefiting from counseling right now?? This is a very difficult are - I agree - but i think it's time to try something different. The one thing I will say though is that the dog seems to have leveled her off a bit in a good way. So maybe it will take a little longer to get back to a sitch where I can make the suggestion.