Thanks to everyone, H actually transferred the $$ so at break I will bite the bullet and get it done. I'm really sad about this, but theres nothing else I can do. He has put me in a no-win situation and so someone has to be the grown-up, might as well be me.
About the cards and stuff, my names not on them...I would just do it for spite - plain and simple!
Sorry that you are sad, but hopefully at some point your H will get his stuff together and be what you want and deserve, although you may not care by then of course!!! Well, even if the cards don't have your name on then or whatever, if your H loses $10,000 I would imagine that affects your kids or your future divorce sitch also. That's money that could go to your kids instead of casinos!!! I feel so bad at the way your H treats you!!!! Karen
