Rob #9 - Don't Stop Believin'

[SDFoundGirl]

Ah, Rob. All I can tell you is that society does a number on women. Even the hot ones hate their bodies and can tell you every little imperfection (real or imagined). Women never feel good enough.

Look at commercials, movies, magazines etc. Most of attraction is based on the woman's physical attributes, THAT'S what gives the woman her power. And then you add porn into the mix...well, we can't compete.

So, while you are all turned on and thinking, "Oooo...naked....good!", your woman is thinking, "My butt's too big, I'm bloated, does he notice my cellulite?" And then that leads to inhibition in the bed, because we might do something you don't like or to embarrass ourselves. Or you might laugh because we're obviously not those hot women from the movies.

This is my intuition...how often do you compliment your W's appearance with no thought of sex? Are there times her hair is all tousled, no make up when you think, "Damn she's hot!" but don't tell her? I'd say, start to notice and comment on your wife's appearance. Be specific. Or maybe you're all cuddled up watching a movie, and you notice that her hair smells good.

We want to know you think we're good looking...that we turn you on. Because we all know you guys could have sex with just about anything--you know, you guys are just driven my your male parts and any port in a storm, you know? (Yes, I know this is absurd, but just because you want to have sex with us does not mean you find us attractive in the female mind).

My H is actually very sensitive about his chest hair...he worries that he's some Sasquatch and his hair turns me off. Like, he won't walk around with his shirt off in front of anyone. Last night he offered to wax it off if I wanted him to! It made me sort of laugh...because he's not so different from me after all. For me, at least, the chest hair is no big deal. It's not like he's wearing a rug or anything. So I told him that he was just fine the way he was, that I saw it as a sign of virility. He just needed reassurance that he's okay, you know?

So, don't go overboard, but find genuine things to notice about your W and then tell her. H gets lucky more often when he's commented on how I look and I can see it in his eyes.

SD