Mulesqb - Can the sun shine on a donkey's a$$?

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I think Duncin is a fine name for a pooch. Have you bonded with him? I think you should try, since the w is liking him so much. Let her see how great you are with the kids, the dog, the house, etc. Give her one more thing to mull over.

The w is certainly conflicted, much like my h is. He is confused. I just don't know how much more of his confusion I can stand.

Hey Kelly - Yes I love the dog - absolutely perfect for our family right now. S10 had a tramautic experience with a dog at camp 4 years ago so he has been terrified of them. He is doing great with Duncan and he came up with the name. Knowing how scared he is of dogs I have been very emotional watching him with ours. It's awesome.

I had a dog growing up that I was very close to so my W has been asking me a lot of questions. So it has given us an area to bond a little also. She thinks I am very good with him - she has made it a point to say that Duncan loves his Daddy a few times.

I am where you are at in terms of my W's confusion. I want this to work more than anything, but at the same point I have been a doormat for 6 months. I am in it for the long haul because I really do love her more than anything but as you already know sometimes you feel completely drained. The problem is that we just keep going around in circles. Is that what we call riding this out??

It's like a month long version of the movie Groundhog Day. She's nice to me - gets very emotional - says things I want to hear, things go well for a couple of weeks, she pops in a R talk and says I'm misinterpreting things and goes all negative - forgets and denies any of the positive - and then we start all over. Meanwhile the kids are on the outside looking in. I am not doing that anymore - the kids are first - if she doesn't like it, that's her problem. She got pissed the other night when i came home and didn't ask her how her day went. Quite frankly, I didn't give a sh!% how her day went knowing that I was at it with the kids from 7am to 10:30pm getting them where they need to be and then at a family function with 4/5 of our family. I was looking forward to getting them showered up and in bed and getting some time to myself before I went to bed - had she offered to help with that I probably would have asked how her day was.

Also - if she didn't love me - why would she care if I didn't ask her how her day was?? I was giving her space - that she requested. Her confusion confuses me. She is consistently inconsistent. I guess that's MLC. Hope you are having a good day - I know the mental stress you are feeling.