I know its hard but you have to go dark. Dont send him text messages, let him text you unless its something important. You need to let him have his little fun and work on yourself. the more you message him or call him the more it is going to keep him away. Trust me thats one thing i learned. I wrote my H a 3 page letter explaining where we went wrong and basically taking the blame even though it wasnt. in the beginning i would call him and text him constantly when he was with her. if he wasnt home by a certain time i would call him crying and begging. Once I got the book Divorce Busting and read it, i stopped. If you havent read the book, you should. It really has helped me. By begging and pleading and texting them and calling them it just pushes them away further. You have to let them come to you and want to talk to you. I know thats hard because i sit here and pray that he will message me but he doesnt. You can write him a note but dont sound desperate. Just a note to say how are things going with you or something. For me I choose not to do this at all, i choose to wait for him to talk to me because then i know hes thinking of me. However mine doesnt text me to see how im doing...which is fine.
You have to be strong for yourself and work on yourself...let God do his thing. God has a plan for all of us. I just found a website last night and was reading the FAQ's section and it has brightened my eyes...you should check out rejoiceministries.org
please keep us posted. like i said before if you havent already read divorce busting you should!
