WAW is full steam ahead

[LosingSunshine]

Scott,

I think you are right when you said

"I think one of the reasons your W is detaching from spending
time with you and even the kids is because it makes her
feel guilty. I noticed that with my W."

I can't imagine how much guilt and confusion she must be feeling and I know that myself being calm, cool and collected has only added to the confusion as she was expecting me to be angry, combative, heavily pursuing etc. And I think it's only going to intensify as the reality of some of this starts sinking in.

Also, my C said yesterday that the constant bringing up of her need for independence/separateness is a sign that she is still confused/struggling with the decision. That's good for me in some ways, I guess but it just makes the sitch all that more difficult to manage at the same time.

Sometimes I just want to scream "SNAP OUT OF IT ALREADY" but what good will that do.

C also brought up the parable of the prodigal son. Something to think about I guess. We are the father and are W is the wayward child. Eventually they realize what they have done and come back for foregiveness. If we truly have unconditional love for our Ws and choose to maintain that love, then we know what happens next.

He also brought up Moses wandering through the desert for 40 years...didn't get the point of that but okay.

Thanks again and hope you all are having a good day.

Chris