Mulesqb - Can the sun shine on a donkey's a$$?

[mulesqb]

Hey puppy - Question - my style was not controlling at all but she says it was. When I have asked her or the therapist has asked her to come up with example of my controlling nature sh4e has been unable to. At one point in the beginning of all of this I said to her that I was very surprised that she saw me as controlling. I then asked if she could tell me when I have been in the past or if I do it currently so I can see what she is talking about - and make sure that I don't do it anymore. Since then she has told her father that - free time and space has never been a problem - that I have always been they type to encourage her to do whatever she wants.

She definitely had an EA. I have no evidence of a PA at this point. I have always been Mr. Nice Guy with her.

Question - My therapist told me last night that she thinks my W is in trouble. She said that she thinks she needs to see a psychiatric doctor. This is based on seeing my W in about 6 or 7 visits and based on what I have told her since my W stopped coming. She said for my own sanity she thinks I am at the point where I need to say something to her in one of her meltdowns. She said she has exhibited little signs of many different things - depression, multiple personalities, chemical imbalance, hormonal imbalance, etc..Do you think I should say that to her. Is that leading or trying to fix her?? She said i look exasperated at the sitch and need to really find out what will happen. She said that I take the short term fixes in lieu of the long term (Sound familiar Dr. Puppy!). I think I have done that because I am afraid to find out if I am going to lose her. But my therapist thinks I have some leverage as my W always seems to turn to me when she needs help. She thinks that she will definitely have a harsh reaction to the suggestion but will eventually come back. What do you think?? I know it's a risk - but I may be willing to take it at this point. We just seem to be going in circles.

Would love to hear what you guys think.