You are not necessarily "done." I had to go so far as to file D on my wife, and we would have BOTH told you we were "done" at this very time last year, but today we are together and doing well and are each other's best friends again.
I'm just trying to get you to -- for your own sanity and self-respect -- INSIST UPON YOUR BOUNDARIES from your wife. Her behavior is killing your self-esteem, and you will need to be a stronger, "No More Mr. Nice Guy" man moving forward, regardless of whether it's with her or with someone else.
The strong, "leading" behaviors I advocate also have the secondary benefit of making you MORE ATTRACTIVE to your wayward spouse (although that's not who we're primarily doing it for).
You are NOT the one who is responsible for your wife's selfish decision to try to end her marriage, but you ARE responsible for how you react to it.
