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My marriage ended because of Second Life. My ex started an EA with a woman from another state. She is an anorexic, agoraphobic, bisexual, bipolar mother of three with an abusive husband. He was secretly sending her money to supposedly help her escape her husband. He was up at all hours of the night supposedly working on the computer. He was really playing this stupid game and having cybersex with her. He moved out a few months after telling me about the affair and still spends all of his free time playing these online games. Well, I finally gave up my fight and got divorced last October.

I am so glad now that I did not wait longer. His spending has gotten insane and he has changed from nice to nasty. Although he claims that they are just friends, he has recently bought a house in her state for her to live in, since her parents won't let her move in with them and she still needs to escape this abusive husband. I don't know how he managed to get the loan for it. He rents a little apartment here that he lives in.

Sometime around six months after the divorce was final he started to blame me for everything and has started spewing. I am getting constant nasty emails from him. I am so glad that I got my divorce while he was still generous and did not fight me on custody.

I wish you both, Dawn of Hope and loveHopeFaith, the best of luck saving your marriages. Know that these online relationships are very real to these messed up men. They can play knight in shining armor and save these women. I do not believe that even now my ex is having a physical relationship with this woman, but it doesn't matter. The emotional, fantasy component is very strong. Many of these men have no friends or activities in real life so these fake worlds mean everything to them. In my case, my ex showed no ambivalence over his decision to leave our marriage for his new life.

In terms of my life, I am doing well when not dealing with my crazy ex. I have been dating a very nice man who was left by his wife after 20 years of marriage for a man she dated in high school. (She reconnected with him online.) I have built a new life for myself. My friend and I are building a conscious relationship built on honesty and are very happy together.