Agreed NMD...the very fact that we can figure out, identify and classify their behavior and 'stages' that they go thru DOESN'T MEAN IT IS NORMAL OR HEALTHY. IT takes a while for us to realize that WE WERE GOOD HUSBANDS even if many of us were not AAA+++ Academy Award winners.

These were THEIR issues.
Their changes.

We tried to save our M's as best we could, but, we can't do it alone. So be it. We grow, learn, and, with luck, hope and prayer, as in your sitch, a better plan comes along. Blessings. Frank

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;