Rob #9 - Don't Stop Believin'

[Rob1231]

Wow. Yes, that's more than reasonable I would think. We're not there yet either.... Anyway, it's not like you want to grope and slobber on her 10 times a week.

Well, I guess it just shows that 'more than reasonable' is in the eyes of the beholder!

And true, we have been through a lot together. I believe I shared details of DTD and my nightie prancing once upon a time.

I wonder...now, mind you, I'm only talking from my experience so this may or may not be true. Maybe your W feels inhibited, like she doesn't feel sexy or able to please YOU. I'm not saying that's true, but women sometimes buy into the characters in movies and stuff that the men are all ga-ga over. The perfect bodies, the wanton-ness, almost a dominant role. I think what women may not understand is that you guys don't much notice the extra flab and are just happy to, you know, be doing it with an enthusiastic partner that you care about.

Like I said, that may or may not be true. You know your W. Just thinking...

Oh, that all certainly plays a big part.

First, yes, W is pretty inhibited. I am trying to gradually expand the things we do to introduce a little spice, but it's a real balancing act between making things more interesting and making her uncomfortable.

Second, you are right, W is very self-conscious. Whether it's her hair, or her weight, or her skin, or those tiny little hints of spider veins - well, there's always something to be dissatisfied with herself about. Now, I think she's absolutely beautiful and sexy, but it's tough to get past her own ideas about herself. Sometimes I get the feeling she thinks I am either blind, stupid, or lying. On the flip side, I confess that it can be aggravating to think "What, so you feel two pounds overweight today, so that means I don't get to have sex? WTF?!"

I would certainly welcome any Sagely Words of Wisdom from the Female Point of View here!