I would drop the D conversation UNLESS H brings it up first. IF he does, I would tell him that right now your focus needs to be on D17 and her issues with school. Other than that, you were upset and angry and trying to resolve anything while living apart like this is like trying to catch a greased pig--pretty unproductive.
Strength and unconditional love are needed and I know you have a wealth of both, even if it means pulling out a reserve tank.
SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7