Nice to catch up with you. I miss your posts and your encouragement. You and a few others were there in my darkest hours and I will NEVER forget that. Our sitches were similar and sadly they are different today. There are still daily hurdles we all need to avoid regardless of where we are. For what it is worth I think you are doing great. I thought you were always doing great regardless of what was being thrown at you. Don't worry so much about your STBX's reactions....
J210
PS we all change...some for the worse (maybe STBX) some for the better.