My sitch is in the friendship stage. We are getting along but nothing will progress until she wants it to. There is a thick wall that she has built up over the years to protect herself and it will take time for her to tear it down and to get her to trust me again, if ever.
Its learning to be patient and not try and make it go any faster that is hard for me. I tell myself everyday that it will take time and not to push anything. I am on her time not mine. Sucks but that is life. Better this than the alternative.
Thanks for asking.
Hey D, you're right, it is better than the alternative. Focus on you. Be as attractive as you can be. Try to think back to her complaints over the years, & do a 180 for those.
Hang in there. You are doing great with being patient.
I am focusing on me. I take it one step at a time. I am always dressed nice. I have not worn jeans or teeshirts around the house for months.
As far as her complants, I have tryed to do the things she complained about. helping around the house, carting the kids around, working on lanscaping, painting rooms in the house, not worring all the time about spending money on things, not making her feel guilty when she does buy something for the house or that I am going to be upset about it and most inportant of all I don't get angry about anything anymore I just smile and take it all in stride.
Not sure what else I can do. She is scared to open up and let me in. She has admitted to living this way so long that she does not know any other way or if she could ever feel anything for me ever again.
I take the friendship as a positive but she does not really tell me much about what she is thinking or doing. Its small talk about kids, family, the house and work.
Everyone says time is on my side but sometimes the months go by and nothing seems to change. Maybe I am not seeing it but that is the way it feels. Its like a dog chasing its tail, I think it might be a pointless endever that will never produce results.
