My H paid for dumb porn pics on his phone before we finally got M and moved intogether. One thing that I was very upset about because we needed money to pay our debt so we COULD M and move in together. Anyways...
I remember catching him in the act one night, and I totally acted like it was no big deal. almost joked with him on it. This was after DBing...before I would have gotten all depressed, and that never worked. I really don't think he does this anymore now, I haven't caught him in over a year anyways. and I think the reason is because of how I've changed, and because we DO have a better sex life now because I'm more confident again like I was when we met.
I think part of the problem your having is that your not feeling loved or wanted physically, and that your H is "having" to go to these pics to be arroused and why can't he get aroused with you? That's exactly how I felt anyways. And if my H would compliment me from time to time and let me know I look good, then maybe I wouldn't have been so jealous too.
So, my suggestion is to do what you did...act as if...and start working on your sex-life. What's holding you guys back on that? sorry, I have forgotten if you've already said.
glad to see you listing the positives though. It is so important.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
