It sounds like she may have a history of being influenced by other men. If not this one then another...
If your W is anything like my H, sentimental letters or books may feel like pursuit. If you do give something like this make sure you are doing it not to "win her back," but as a goodbye gift. And my own personal experince has been that these types of gifts have less affect when a spouse is in the "angry phase." Just be a distant friend while your spouse is in the angry stage. First step is to let that die out and replace with good impressions and positive interactions....
I personally like having my own lawyer and the best (definitely better than my H's!). I also believe in stalling and taking time on things. Hey I'm too busy GALing to get things done right away! Assure her you are working on it, will have it done and gosh you both are going to be super happy eventually.... then I just took my sweet time on everything...
You should have NO expectations. Consider you W Gone Gone GONE!!!
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
