Well, you live in the right state for that at least??? I think of that quote that I think it was Lodo said on my thread about H doesn't want to be thought of as a bad guy, doesn't want to be a good guy, but doesn't want to be thought of as a bad guy, and I'm thinking your H is maybe like that: doesn't want others to think of him as a bad dad, but doesn't really want do the work necessary to be a really good dad? Like the hours he has spelled out but then doesn't use them makes me think that might be true? Karen
