LOL, ok, now we are all going to call you "Yoda". Oh wise one, please when you get a chance, check out my sitch too!! http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...&gonew=1#UNREAD (my prior thread is linked in the first post for background).
I'm so glad to hear everything is going so well. You give a lot of people on here a lot of hope!
Chris
Hi Chris,
LOL, I'll be Yoda, short, wrinkly, big hairy ears....:)
Here were a couple of my thoughts while I was doing dishes...
1. What did he want in the M that he didn't get ? What were his major complaints ? If he were going to come back, what does he want to be different ?
2. Person A wants to be around Person B, when Person B makes them feel good. You shouldn't hide out in your room. You should GAL, & do your thing around the house, act happy & normal, wear your Ipod, dance while you're dusting, whatever. Nothing is as unattractive as a moping, clingy, needy, desperate W or H. Make you the most attractive you can be, without going overboard. When you know he's coming over, wear something he used to like, but be subtle.
Then, when he talks to you, act like he's a new boyfriend. Don't; chase him, pursue him, call him, sleep with him, or nag him about anything.
Just tell him you'd love to be with him, but, you don't feel comfortable having sex while he's still living somewhere else. Once he moves back home & agrees to at least talk to you about the changes he'd like in the M, you'd love to make love to him. (just my opinion, please, follow your heart on this one).
whatcha think ?
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
