Separated 3 Months & Counting...

[JWS]

I was going to say the same thing pisces said. Maybe give it a day or two, and I know that your heart probably just hit the floor because you have been counting the hours until his return, but you would rather him not know that. If you wait till mid week and then ask to see him on the weekend it may give him a chance to get settled in at home. In a way he has been able to hide from it for a while being out of town. It might affect him to get home and not have you call him that very day.

I am very proud of your with supporting the legal sep stuff but not lifting a finger. That is perfect. It will force him to have a little bit of reality in his life. I am sure that being on vacation for a month has left him in more of a fantasy land, so reality would be a good thing.

What you said about falling from his own standards is very true. If I sat my W down two years ago and read her this blog of our current story, she would have been livid. She always believed in M and fighting things out and for better or worse, the whole thing. If she was to look at this story from a different prospective she would not like it one bit.

I am sure that your H of old would be very saddened to know he would end up this way as well. Witch is all the more reason for understanding and forgiveness on our part. It would (and is) easy to judge but I imagine that alone sometime they judge themselves enough, and our empathy will go a lot father to our goals then judging.

Enjoy that run and focus on you and your GALs the rest of the week, don’t forget that time is on your side and if that means he has to wait a day or two to hear from you upon his return that is not a bad thing. I remember how the roller coaster was in full swing when I first go to see her, so I will be checking in more often this week if you need to vent. :o)