So I am just wondering if I am in the right spot. She has me totally baffled.
To me, it sounds like you are doing well. You have a counselor or rather counselors. You might ask them. They know you want to save your marriage. If I were you I would depend on the pros who know you rather than we here who can merely guess. Same with MLC. Maybe it is. Maybe it isn't. I just showed your post to a woman and she said it sounds hormonal. She is not a doctor, but it is probably as good a guess as MLC.
And do yourself a favor, try not to involve friends. They can't do anything. And it could cause tension for them. One of the best things I did was not to involve friends, mutual, mine or hers.
