Peaked out of tunnel but now back in?

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Boundaries? Find a way to decline--firm but friendly.

Tell him you need it--then say have a nice time. Something like that.

If he gets mad, that is his problem. If he can't be trusted to not walk off with stuff and it is fairly part of property agreement, then don't allow him to walk on you.

DB is not the only book that recommends dim/dark, but you may want to try a different tactice first. You might want to browse and see Plan A / Plan B on marriage builders.