SC - thanks for your words...they're inspirational to many of us.
I'm in month 2 of my WAS. .... when she does end it and begins to grieve...I will be there for her. Regardless of the situation, I love her and it will hurt me to see her in such pain.
For now, I'm already a changed person. I didn't need a 2x4 upside the head, but maybe a 1x2 ;)....
I have begun to really listen to her and try to understand how she feels. I've come to appreciate even more the sacrifices she's made to stay home with the kids...
...I will continue to work on me and provide her as much support as I can. She doesn't know where she's going to end up, but I love her enough that if she chooses to leave, I can accept it.
Throughout all of this, I remind myself that "Love is patient". I also remind myself that if I love something, I must be prepared to let it go.
WOW ! That is soooooo awesome that you've realized all that already. Your journey will be shorter than some, hopefully less painful too. I wish you all the best. You sound like you're doing great.
take care of you
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
