It is a shame, but she's not going to break off her parents too...so this puts her in a tough position...which is what you want.
If you and your community keep up the pressure and YOU STAY back and maybe even protect her from it a bit. Sit with her and apologize that everyone is giving her such a hard time. This MUST be stressful for her really so..just be loving and sincere.
She must be shown what she's getting into and warned well in advance, so it is important for the community to be warning her what she's getting into.
Never mind her telling you it is over. Its not just immaturity. It is pain. She's miserable and says it is over becuase she thinks BURYING the pain is best. She feels that covering her pain up with a relationship founded on lies and sneaking around will make all her upset go away.
She will learn one way or another.
She's not immature as much as she is hurt. Picture a child frightened to ride a bicycle a second time because her first attempt resulted in a painful knee injury. She's afraid of the bike now and says she will never ride it again.
You have to convince her this bicycle she's afraid of is NOT going to HURT her anymore. The bike is safe and FUN to ride now.
Got it?
She's just hurt and scared more than she is immature. The OM is not hurt or scared he's just a child.
She will get hurt there too if she tries to make a go of it. Anyone willing to participate in an affair hasn't cultivated the maturity it takes to keep a long term relationship alive. Their bond won't last, he doens'nt know how to nurture it.
She's addicted, that WILL wear off in time. THEN reality will hit her and she will be miserable again.
YOU just have to be the man she needs through all of this.
