I had tears in my eyes reading your post. I agree. Everyone who gets married should go to Retrouvaille. Even people who are just living together. It is amazing that we wait until we are so unhappy, and on the brink of divorce before we will take a little instruction from other people on how to interact. It's only 2 days and boom! we are changed people!
One small thing I noticed. In phrasing your question, it should always be "How do I feel about _____?" Maybe that's what you meant when you said we. But I wanted to be precise.
I have watched you progress for over a year now. It has been very slow, but there has been consistent movement toward your goal. And now Whoosh! You are really moving fast. I am so happy for you.