The most helpful advice I’ve gotten so far is to accept that this R is over. That’s harsh but it is, and you don’t want it back. Your M is not over and you want the chance to build a new R, but it won’t be the same one and that is a good thing.
You're totally right. Thanks for that.
Originally Posted By: JWS
I go back and forth about the pros and cons of legal separation.
Me too, and I hear what you're saying. All I think I'm really going to say yes to is moving forward on his part. If he wants a legal arrangement, he can do the work to look into it. If he actually does get to the point of producing papers for me to sign, which knowing him is doubtful--but a definite possibility, I don't think that he will like the outcome. Leaving it in his court is a risk, but as long as we are in limbo, he will, I think, resist our friendship. At least that is what he seems to be saying. However, he has been gone for 6 weeks and it might be a different story once he is actually back here.
Originally Posted By: JWS
Pain is all that can come from looking at Facebook or Myspace right now.
The most painful part is seeing how far he fell from his own standards, the man I married, with his LDEA--it's depressing to me. It really seems like it was because, as people have told me, he didn't feel like a real man due to our tough situation.
Thanks, as always, for your helpful & kind words.
It is in the shelter of each other that people live.--Irish proverb
