When is it over?

[christarn]

Ace, at one point in time I asked a wise DBer that same question about 8 months into my dbing...his answer was simple yet awesome....each situation is unique, and one can only do this as long as he/she physically/mentally/emotionally can handle it. There is no "right or wrong" amount of time.

If you give her an ultimatum and say " I am giving you XX amount of time to leave him and come home to work on us" you will only push her further away, and drive her closer to him....totally counter productive.

Each marriage situation is unique, you must lay your cards out, and write out the pro's and con's....then you and only you can decide how long you are willing to wait.

I have been separated for 18 months and Db'ing for a year. There are days when I want to fold, wave the white flag and say "done"...but something has kept me going...I believe whole heartedly God has blessed me with strength to fight this battle...for how long....I don't know...only time will tell.

Take care of yourself
hugs 2 you
christarn