Hey guys! Ladybug, you are right. I have to try to prep myself for it because he's done it many times before. It just feels so different this time. I hope I'm not sucked in for more disappointment. Ugh.

I totally forgot one more part of the story. Saturday night when I sent him that article I found on that study of couples over 5 years... http://www.mwmagazine.com.au/?p=272 (there it is by the way)

While he was reading I was looking on Craigs list at vacation rentals. After he was done reading he asked if I had anything else to send him. I told him "just a great vacation rental for us" to which he said. "Oh yeah, where?" and I said. "Mexico". To which he said. "I just have NO idea when I'd get time off for that". I was shocked he even responded. I've been asking for months for him to go away with me somewhere, and it's always been...."No, it would just be a waste of money. Nothing is going to change. IT wouldn't do any good".

So even just the way he responded to that was very surprising. And with the DNC here next month (tons of off duty work for him), and our D2's surgery, then our D6 starting school, oh yeah, and I have a 3 day girls weekend away planned too, he's right. I don't know WHEN we'd fit it in, but just the WORDS he used and how he responded was different.

He's still gone swimming with the girls right now. I'm primped and am all purtied up for when they come home. Hoping he'll stay for dinner, especially with the people he is staying with being gone ,but I'll DB and look like it's no biggie if he says no.

God, I hope something has made him just slow down at the very least. I so hope he doesn't really file this week.

Chris


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Me:39
H:39
D:8
D:4
M:9 (T 13)
Bomb 4-5-08, H moved out 6-16-08,
Reconciled and H moved back in 5-31-09
Still doing GREAT a year later!!!